Hello from my Manhattan hotel room, where I’m blogging before running off to see “Next To Normal”-a risk in and of itself, but that’s not what this blog is about!
Today is my first wedding Anniversary! Some of you that know me know that this is my…ahem…. 4th first Anniversary. There. I said it. For those of you that are not judging me, thanks. For those of you that are, it’s cool. I have no shame about it. I always remember something that a dear friend said to me once: “Kitty, the fact that you’re willing to get married again just shows how open you remain to having love in your life.” Wow-thanks!! That has always stuck with me.
Another friend recently asked: “What makes this marriage so different from 1, 2, and 3?” 1) Life experience 2) Owning my mistakes and forgiving myself for them 3) Honesty 4) Putting my spouse first 5) I did not manipulate this situation-I applied the “Let Go and Let God” technique 6) It just WORKS!!
I’m blessed and grateful beyond belief for Michael and send all our love out to you today to be used where needed.
Kitty Karn risked it ALL and moved to the cornfields of West Central Illinois where she found her dream man and her dream job. She can hardly wait to see what the Universe has in store for the rest of her life and is even more excited to see what happens on everyone else's journeys!! Let's share in each other's joys and sorrows.
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Happy first anniversary! You are still a bride. There should be no stigma to having had more than one spouse. I’m good friends with all my former spouses (notice I didn’t say ex). People change. Goals can differ over time. Some people expand their world as time passes, and others shrink theirs down.
There are those of us have found deep love in more than one relationship. Some lucky people have found their soul mates. I say lucky because the pain of separation is devastating, regardless of the reasons. Dreams are shattered. Friendships can disappear. Lifestyles certainly change. I admire you for being willing to go through all that grief in the effort to stay true to yourself.
Hope springs eternal in the heart of a romantic. We are truly optimists. Everything we experience shapes us. Everything that you have done and every person you have loved has molded you into the person you are today. Wisdom comes when we are able to look back and realize our part in things, let go of any bitterness and anger, and become willing to change. Maybe practice makes perfect.
May you and Michael have great happiness and continued growth together. Happy anniversary!
Roxann,
For some reason, I missed seeing this comment until just today. Thanks for these wonderful insights! They are certainly exactly how I feel. I, too, am friends with my “ex’s” and don’t for once second regret any past relationships. I have loved deeply in all of them and learned much. It is nice to know that others have found the same to be true!