Now I still sit and observe, but I think it allows me to sort things through, weighing both sides, and formulate an opinion that comes from my own cogitating, and not just from parroting what I’ve heard one side say. (Not a dittohead, I.)

When I (way too frequently) run into people who are on a differing end of the sociopolitical spectrum than I am, I use my powers of observation to see if respectful debate is possible. If so, GREAT! One can only grow by allowing people who see things differently into one’s life. If not, I try to keep the interactions with that person away from argument over opinions that aren’t likely to change.

Thank you for this – for the reminder, for the permission, for the courage. You surely DO have something to say! love, la

so well said. i could feel myself breathing better, as i read this, thinking, you know: you’re totally right. realizing that you may not change her opinion is so healthy from the very start. lets you off the Debating-Mode, helps you realize you’re just 2 humans–each with the right to an opinion. and continuing to be gracious to her is a great way to Be in this. who knows? maybe she doesn’t have anybody in her circles that says good stuff abt the President, and now she will. maybe she’ll give the topic at least another thought or two. so well said. and i think it’s at least worth the try. and the Being

I think it’s an important point you make when you talk about the recognition that stating your opinion isn’t necessarily about changing the other person’s mind, but more about honoring yourself.

(And I really love that “thanks to this risk-a-day business” line. I can so TOTALLY relate!)